Points of View
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Rising above a deteriorating quality of life these days,
mostly due to various health issues, I am rarely in the mood to reply to emails
unless they are from friends and/or about poetry or such passions as also
provide mind-body spirit with creative therapy as well as a healthy emotional diet.
However, someone who signs themselves ’an
elderly male reader’ has expressed despair at being “...unable, for various
reasons, to make love to my partner of nearly thirty years.” and worries that the
partner “... is already looking elsewhere, and I will be left alone...”
I am in no position to advise as I have been without a
partner for the best part of a lifetime, but I have been in love and I strongly
suspect that this reader has nothing to fear. It is important, though, that he and
his partner talk about this. Too many of us fail to discuss our more intimate
concerns with loved ones; either we are embarrassed and/ or fear the possible
outcome. Whatever, it is always better
to know than just suspect; the latter can only loose all manner of
demons upon us, not the least being jealousy.
As regular readers will know, years of hormone therapy
for my prostate cancer has left me with no appetite for sex in any form; even
porn mags don’t turn me on. At first, it left me feeling emotionally inadequate,
and I missed the sheer pleasure of lovemaking. Now, though, I take pleasure even more pleasure in
such simple delights as meeting up and putting the world to rights (as if!)
with friends and/or visiting places I love, whether for real or in my
imagination.
While I don’t miss sex anymore, I can appreciate that it's not the same for everyone, nor do all men of a certain age lose either their appetite for sex or their ability/ inclination to perform. Even so, the expression ‘making love’ is something of a misnomer, to say the least; love is not made, it is created between soulmates who are mutually inspired by letting it grow and mature.
There is great pleasure to be taken from sex
between partners who are physically attracted to one another, and nothing wrong
with it at all, but whether or not they fall in love, that is something else
altogether.
A heart-to-heart between this reader and his partner
will establish the emotional paths both need to take; should the partner need to continue satisfying his or her sexual appetite the reader should try not see this as a poor reflection on their love for one another. Easier said than done, I agree, but life is rarely easy in
every way. Such are the ways of love that they, too, are no less inclined to test mind-body-spirit from time to time, trusting it to pass with flying colours... or not, as the case maybe.
POINTS OF VIEW
At
open windows by the sea,
listening
to waves telling and retelling
stirring
tales of derring-do,
discovery
and exploration, lifting
spirits
while breaking hearts
of
those left counting days and nights
before
any returns on dreams
likely
to leave pride in tears, love in pain,
time
after time, and time again
At
open windows on cornfields,
leafy
woodlands and all manner of bird
and
beast sure to nurture
its
natural surroundings in the time left
before
the human race,
cocksure
of ways and means to match
any
end-of-world scenarios,
continues
to confuse its images of progress
with paths of peace and happiness
At
open windows on the world,
expecting
even more from its seasons,
in
demonstrating our worth,
nature
and human nature, each as vulnerable
as
the other to kindness
and
neglect, pride, disrespect. even violence
as
weathered during Earth Mother’s
labour
pains for both peopling and colouring
landscapes
worth the nurturing
At
dead of night, left to reflect
on
such life-forces as have inspired us
to
let love light up our lives, thereby creating
a
kinder, wiser personal space, addressing
past
mistakes, shying away
from
a Here-and-Now that’s dependent
on
algorithms as may well suffice,
but never replace innate sensibilities, life forces
defining Earth Mother for centuries...
Reminding
nature-and-human-nature how progress
is best judged by its capacity for alleviating distress
Copyright
R. N. Taber 2021
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