No parent should expect to live the life they may have missed out on through their children. While this may be understandable in the sense that some parents want more for their children than they had when they were young, I have seen too many parents overstep the mark in their misplaced enthusiasm to recapture lost opportunities. Children and young people need guidance, of course, but there is a big difference between guidance and manipulation. We all need to develop a sense of discernment that encourages us to make our own choices. Yes, mistakes will be made, that's par for the course from birth to grave.
For anyone interested, I have inserted (below) my reading of the poem on Brighton beach, December 21st 2010, my 65th birthday. (I am 70 now.) I should add that this was in the early days of my You Tube channel before my friend Graham (who shoots and edits the videos) and I discovered how to insert a voice file so I could read my poems over any filming.
Life is, indeed, the making of us, from the first steps we take to our last; full of opportunities taken, rejected or missed altogether, no one to praise or blame for how we turn out but the inner self that sees all, no place to hide.